Things to do to help someone having a bad day

Depression and mental health issues are something that is becoming more recognised and appreciated as an actual illness, and sometimes we just don't know how to help, as much as we want to, when someone we know and love is struggling with their mental health, especially with everything going on in the world right now.

With that in mind, I've thought long about what I need when I'm in my dark place.


Cook them a meal
If the person you are worried about is anything like me, a decent meal is the last thing on my mind when my depression is at its worse. I usually find my self eating 100 bags of crisps or ordering something shitty from a take-away. One of the things I will always appreciate is a decent meal. Something I can chuck in the microwave when I'm feeling hungry. A decent diet is one of the things that can help bring you out of it too. 

Talk to them
I don't mean asking if they are alright. In fact if we are talking about me, don't ask me if I'm alright. It just annoys me because obviously I'm not, but I'm not always sure exactly why I'm not okay and how anyone can help. What is helpful is treating me normally, chatting about something that is completely normal is a useful distraction, even if its only for 10 minutes. If you get the conversation just right you might even get a smile. 

Get them out of the house
Locking yourself away is one of the biggest things people suffering with their depression do. Getting out of the house can definitely help. Send them on an errand, or even just for a nice slow walk. obviously this isn't necessarily possible in the current climate, but a socially distanced walk with a loved one can really help. 

What things do you find helpful?

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